Sometimes people walk away from love because it is so beautiful that it terrifies them. Sometimes they leave because the connection shines a bright light on their dark places and they are not ready to work them through. Sometimes they run away because they are not developmentally prepared to merge with another—they have more individuation work to do
first. Sometimes they take off because love is not a priority in their lives —they have another path and purpose to walk first. Sometimes they end it because they prefer a relationship that is more practical than conscious, one that does not threaten the ways that they organize reality. Because so many of us carry shame, we have a tendency to personalize love’s leavings, triggered by the rejection and feelings of abandonment. But this is not always true. Sometimes it has nothing to do with us. Sometimes the one who leaves is just not ready to hold it safe. Sometimes they know something we don’t—they know their limits at that moment in time. Real love is no easy path: Readiness is everything. May we grieve loss without personalizing it. May we learn to love ourselves in the absence of the lover. (~an excerpt from Jeff Brown’s book ‘An Uncommon Bond’) (PINNED POST)
How powerful is this?? I know this hits home for so many of you.
Maybe you have done the leaving, maybe you have been left…
- To show us a spot within ourselves that needs healing work.
- To teach the other a lesson about themselves.
- To open our hearts to the IDEA of true love again.
- To open our eyes to the fact we may have been settling.
- To teach the other about lost love when they get into another relationship and have their heart broken.
- To have more patience, compassion and understanding (GOD I hate the P word).
- To teach us what a truer Soulful union with another is!
Can anyone relate (if yes or no, care to share your feelings in the comments below)?
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